You were taught to focus a specific way
Focus – Part 2
Welcome back to this 3-part dive into focus. I want to start today by simply saying, I know for many of us our as if “lack of focus” is really frustrating and painful. Today let’s explore where this belief came from. I want to get you to ask yourself – is this really true? Do I really have a focusing problem, or was I simply taught to focus on the wrong things?
I believe you are not only capable of focusing – your body IS focus.
You simply were taught a specific way of focusing, towards specific things, essentially teaching you to ignore your desires, feelings, and to separate yourself from your bodily experience.
In my opinion – To control you, to make you a worker instead of a creator, and to destroy your confidence and natural focusing abilities. If you are distracted and insecure you are easier to control. This breaks my heart, makes me angry and as I am a bit of a rebel, I am very motivated to give you tools and insight into what is going on here so you can change your experience!
So let’s continue to break this down and train practices for focus!
- Your present practice of focus was taught to you in school – sit still, behind little desks and don’t move or have energy.
Every time we try to “focus” it’s this way, right? We sit down, we narrow our movement and viewpoint, we “concentrate.” But let me ask you – Is this giving you the experience you want?
We were taught and learned this expression of focus through practice. Think about it —to learn, (and be liked – therefor successful) meant to sit still for behind a desk for hours, days weeks…and it still does for most of us!
We were taught to use our eyes predominantly – to move very little, and to zoom inward. If you needed to move or had a wide perception – you were told something was “wrong” with your ability to “focus”
But is that really how focus is created, felt and maintained? or is that simply a way that a particular system of focus was taught to control us? Do we truly reach high levels of focus when we sit still?
Most of us hated this – we couldn’t wait for recess when we could move, yell, express – and I maintain that our body is NOT meant to be still – NOTHING is still in life – and practically – sitting still for the animal body means danger – and tons of fear (discomfort, boredom, anger etc).
Let’s get clear – most of us in our experience today – as well as then – notice – the more we try to “focus” by sitting still, barely breathing – focusing on keeping distractions OUT – the more effortful and stress focus becomes! Our experience tends to become tense and rigid as we try to decrease our sensory input “so we can concentrate”. Our perspective becomes much smaller based on this bodily expression. AND WE BECOME LESS FOCUSED – we enjoy less and learn less.
- In last week’s video we learned and trained focus as a whole-body experience – but we were taught to approach focus predominantly from the head area. We were taught to mind things, think about them, and a large part of our expression is through speaking and facial expression. The experience of focusing is mostly on our head – is that our attention becomes narrowly focused and fixated.
This kind of focus expresses itself physically as an effort in the face, mouth, throat, and eyes, a creased brow, rigid head and neck – and as we do this – we all but forget the rest of our body. We don’t move, breathe, or feel ourselves. In essence, our attention becomes abstract – expressing itself in the world of ideas, and thoughts – but separated from our feelings, reality, and the sensory experience of yourself at the moment.
For our body, this state is very stress producing. Think about it – if I am only seeing the point in front of me, I cannot feel, hear, see, and perceive the lion coming to eat me – neither can I see the opportunities within my reach. And in creativity – this narrowness in focus – does not allow us to expand into creative possibilities.
- You were taught and it is reinforced even today – that You are good if you are more a mind and less a body. We are rewarded for our mental capacity – schooling and achievement is about tests and measures predominantly of our cognitive ability to take in information and regurgitate this info. Far less value is placed on our whole experience – our individual qualities, feelings, expressive capacities, our movements and physical senses and the creative results. It’s as if the rest of us is invaluable and less than – below the great cognitive mind.
Add to that the shame most of us grew up with surrounding our body – body image, sexuality, our desires, hunger and senses – all pushed away – if not outwardly shamed – in favor of our mental capacity.
But what has this created in our experience? In school – what did it create for you? Joy In learning? Success in focus, action taking, excitement or dulling boredom, loss of life joy and energy, and an obsession with self-failures, doubts, and inabilities? LOOK to your own experience? How many of you experience pleasure, joy, liveliness, interest, and energy in this state? And think about it again – when you are moving, relaxing, playing, connective, and involved in your senses – are you doubting yourself, unable to focus, or lacking in any way? Or Is it easy to create and achieve your desires in such states?
Focus is not what we were taught – and I maintain that focus taught this way was for one reason only – to control you and keep you busy with your failures instead of manifesting, creating and doing the things you love and are great at!
4. The more we practice focus as we were trained to – narrowness, little movement, fixed attention instead of wide involvement with life, the less we enjoy and succeed, the more are anxious and tired we are – and the LESS WE ARE ABLE TO FOCUS. Just like our small desks, and rigidly imposed ways of learning – our gadgets, working environments, and lack of movement – maintain this control of focus. As a result, we are becoming increasingly narrow and contracted in our attention – and our focus becoming smaller and narrower. The less physical we become the harder it is to focus – let alone enjoy, relax, have energy and pleasure. If you are believing you cannot focus – rethink this and shift this belief. You do not have a problem with focus – you just learned and practice a state of focus that isn’t enjoyable. Remember our body will not do what it does not enjoy. So, let’s now train to have a different experience of focus.
You were taught to focus a specific way IN SUMMARY
1. You were taught to focus not for creativity but for control! The intention is to make you a better worker and not a better creator.
2. Focus is a whole-body experience but we were taught to approach focus predominantly from the head area and taught to ignore our desires, feelings and to separate our self from our bodily experience.
3. You are good if you are more a mind and less a body. Far less value is placed on our whole experience: our individual qualities, feelings, expressive capacities, our movements and physical senses, and the creative results.
4.The more narrow, immobile and fixed we practice to focus – as we were trained to – the more anxious and tired we are and the less we are able to naturally focus.
And remember –
You are the Creator – when you embody your creativity – you manifest your dreams!
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Answer this questions to yourself and comment your answers below!
1. What beliefs do you have about the right way to focus and How were you taught this? What did this do to your creativity?
2. How did shifting your attention to your physical experience allow you to change your beliefs about the right way to focus? How did you feel after training, and how do you plan to integrate this into your life?
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Creative D.R.I.V.E. in ACTION
Weekly implementation to deepen your practice! Simply do yourself a favor and while working with these questions – STAY PHYSICAL!
- Take a sheet of paper: write down experiences you remember from school, church, etc where you needed to sit still in a desk, and not move – write about how you felt and what your experience was, and how this affects you today.
- Write about the beliefs you still maintain from school about how to focus; what did this create in your beliefs and confidence regarding learning, focus, and effectivity?
- As you explore – allow your attention to include your bodily state, your senses you breathing and physical states.